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When we are systematically not heard in a significant relationship, it is intentional. It is a form of oppression…read more
His life was defined by hard work and his love for and devotion to my mother. He was fiercely dedicated to providing for my brother and me as we grew up. It’s the way he loved us.read more
Transition from Beside the Point to Becoming the Point of Your Own Life Think Labrador Retriever. Wide-eyed, faithful, forgiving and loyal, until… He insisted on my presence at every meeting with attorneys, each deposition and appearance in court. I believed he needed me, my steadfast love and support. My demeanor was calm and quiet. When...read more
It is true when I think about it, I am surprised by contentment. It is not what I considered in my decision to live here. My reasons were strictly practical, proximity to where my dad lives in a residential care home and budget constraints. Six months have passed since moving day… I am drawn to the light outside – beyond the living room window,...read more
The healing of old wounds is not optional but essential to protect our lives from undesireable consequences.
It’s true we shouldn’t dwell in the past and rehearse the hurts and injustices we’ve suffered, or our regrets and shame. It’s also true that unless we have dealt properly with a shattering experience of the past, faced the pain and processed it in a healthy way, the unhealed wounds will inflict further injury.read more
To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you. - Lewis B. Smedes If God's forgiveness is enough for you, how do you explain self-condemnation and lack of self-forgiveness, considering the grace of God? When we see articles or books on the topic of forgiveness, we expect them to be about how to forgive someone else....read more
It was a temptation to scream this phrase at the top of my lungs. Obviously, stepping off terra firma into outer space was not an option. Rather, what I desperately needed was to be free of chronic fatigue, stress, anxiety, negative emotions and erratic behaviors.
Sleepless nights spent rehashing painful events must also end.
What brought me to this place?read more
If someone told you to ‘drop the act’, it would seem a bit harsh, right? That is precisely what I was told – to my face – by two people who cared about me.First, there was Cheryl. We were each married with small children and attended the same church. Our two families spent time at each other’s homes to barbecue and play games.read more
Leah was betrayed by her father who devised a scheme to marry her off to a man named Jacob, who was passionately in love with her younger sister. It does sound like the plot for a soap opera, but you can read all about it in the first book of the Bible, Genesis Chapter twenty-nine. True stories are almost always the most intriguing.read more
Relationship addiction is something that never occurred to me, even after the experience of multiple failed marriages. It amazes me now that I used to thank God that I did not have addictive tendencies. Then came a day of revelation, on the heels of a crushing blow.read more